If you knew of a way to make yourself irresistibly attractive without the use of drugs, chemicals, nips or tucks would you try it? There is a simple way to make yourself completely irresistible to every single person that you interact with, and it won't cost you a dime. It's an ancient beauty secret that transforms you from the inside out. What's the secret? Here it is in two simple words: be thankful!

People who dwell on the negative and spend a lot of time complaining are some of the most unattractive people to be around. Even God can't stand complaining, so how can we mere mortals endure it? Most of us, at least a subconscious level, realize that others don't really want to hear our list of complaints. We also realize that most of the time, the people that we spend time complaining to can't do a thing to improve our situations anyway. Instead of taking our complaints to the One who can do something about them, we find clever ways to disguise them and feed them to others. This is what I call a candy-coated complaint.

The candy-coated complaint is a negative remark that is immediately followed by a masking positive remark. The positive remark is usually prefaced with 'but,' or 'well,' or 'at least;' we may even insert a 'thank God' in there. It's a subtle way of complaining that often goes undetected (or so we may think) because it ends on a positive note… but it's still complaining. A candy-coated complaint sounds something like this: I can barely live off what I'm making... but thank God, I've got a job. Here's an idea: what if we left out everything up to and including the 'but,' 'well,' or 'at least' and just gave thanks?

The thing about a complaint is that the focus is on what's wrong. What do you think would happen if we made a habit of shifting our focus away from what's wrong and focused instead on what's right and good? Here's what would happen: our perspective on life would improve; our relationships would be enhanced; we would be better examples to others; and we would become simply irresistible. A person who is thankful and expresses appreciation is most attractive and someone whose company most people would want to be in.

True enough, life is not always an easy walk through the park: we all face difficulties and challenges of one kind or another. There's nothing wrong with sharing what you're going through with appropriate others who are able to help and encourage you through those tough times. But, our difficulties and challenges should not define our quality of life and relationships.

Make yourself attractive and irresistible from the inside out. Make a major difference in the quality of your own life and in your current and prospective relationships with others. Begin with this timeless, simple formula: be thankful!

Aleathea Dupree is the author of Though The Vision Tarry: Waiting For My Promised Mate and the Administrator for the Deep Waters website/forum. Copyright © 2004. All Rights Reserved. For permission to reprint, please contact: administrator@deepwaters.info.

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